djent

  • 947 Posts
  • 3.74K Comments
Joined 1 year ago
Cake day: February 13th, 2024
  • Angel [any]@hexbear.nettoEthnic Minorities and People of Color@hexbear.net•EM & PoC weekly thread 01/06/2025English
    2·
    5 hours ago
    Doomer [About the State of Hexbear When It Comes to POC]

    I’ve been thinking on whether or not I should start limiting myself to c/em_poc and c/mutual_aid again, and I’ve been increasingly feeling like it’s only right that I do so.

    Interacting with white leftist ignorance is just too much of a chore and a toll on my mental health that I currently do not need right now. Hexbear isn’t immune to it. In fact, I feel like too many crackers on this site are blinded by the “I’m one of the good ones” mentality to a point that they’d never take a step back in their life to sit and wonder if there’s any way they can stop being so fucking upsetting to their EMPOC comrades.

    Like I said in this comment,, white Hexbears are not some heightened level of better or less performative than your typical white leftist you’ll find anywhere else.

    I’ve been being more and more diligent with the job search and even went about ways of thinking outside the box to see if I can have a more solid chance at landing a gig. Once I actually get a job in the capacity to care for myself, the pattern will stay the same: I will only use this site for c/em_poc and c/mutual_aid, but in this case, I hope I can start using the latter more as a donor than a recipient. Unfortunately, the trans clinic job did not accept me.

    It’s really sad for me to sit here and reflect on the fact that, though I’m a newish user, I’ve heard of many past incidences of EMPOC Hexbears leaving this site because of this shit. It’s really depressing, but it’s not shocking, and it’s not like it’s any bit reasonable for me to expect this site to ever get any better about it. doomer

  • Angel [any]@hexbear.nettoSlop.@hexbear.net•[cw transphobia] "Sure theyre trans or whatever"English
    33·
    4 days ago

    Ah, transmed discourse isn’t something I’ve seen in a very long time, but this ridiculous “transsexual and transgender” dichotomy is something I do remember about it. They don’t know what to collectively believe, though, because of their vibes-based takes on gender identity.

    For example, to some transmeds, enbies are valid and acceptable as trans. To some transmeds, being NB and “transsexual” are not mutually exclusive. To some transmeds, if you identify as NB but align with their definition of “transsexual” simultaneously, this just means that you’re actually binary trans in denial [conclusion arrived at through vibes, not any actual coherent reasoning. This is the essence of transmedicalism.]

    They also seem to forget that there are binary trans people who do not medically transition. They conflate being NB with being non-dysphoric/non-medically transitioning and being binary with being dysphoric/medically transitioning, but none of that matters for a trans person’s validity regardless.

    This is all a part of terminally online discourse that people shouldn’t obsess over to begin with. It’s not difficult to respect someone identifying differently than you, but they’d rather fearmonger and victim blame with bullshit like, “Non-binary people are the reason why trans people aren’t taken seriously!” when chuds clearly have demonstrated that they functionally don’t give a shit, and this just shows how terminally online their takes on everything are. Pair that with the fact that they don’t even have a consistent interpretation of what the difference between a non-binary person and a binary trans person is because, really, it’s all rooted in personal comfort of the person with the identity. Two people very clearly could have very similar transition goals and timelines, but one feels more content with calling themself non-binary and the other feels more content with calling themself binary. This is not a contradiction—it’s the result of viewing things through a proper lens that doesn’t validate cisnormative pathology that is upheld to keep transphobic oppression in place.

    What’s actually interesting is that I’ve come to frame my take on my own gender in a totally different way, and the irony is that people like myself would get accused of “attention seeking” for being non-binary when I’d say that the only reason why I’d ever call myself “non-binary” to begin with is society making gender a thing in the first place. It’s the same way I’m “Black” specifically because of European colonizers conjuring up some pseudoscientific concept of race as a justification for imperialism and brutal oppression of people in distant lands. I wrote a whole journal entry that goes into detail about this, but to keep it short, I avoid labeling myself whenever it’s practical. I just want to exist and vibe, not feel connected to a gender identity and sexual orientation, as I don’t validate the concept of gender itself.

    Also, her being a cracker is the least surprising part of all of this.

Moderates

OSZAR »